Breakups
Whether it ended last night or six months ago and you're somehow still not over it — talk to someone who's had their heart broken too. They won't tell you there are plenty of fish.
A breakup isn't just losing a person. It's losing a routine, a future you'd half-planned, the person you texted first when anything happened. It's normal for that to take longer than your friends' patience does.
It's also normal for it to come in waves — fine for a week, then flattened by a song in a café. That isn't going backwards. That's what losing something real looks like.
Your friends picked a side the day it ended. Your family may have had opinions all along. A listener has no stake in it.
You can say the thing you're embarrassed about — that you'd take them back, that you still check their stories, that part of you is relieved — without anyone flinching.
You talk; they listen. A listener who's been through heartbreak themselves will ask the questions that help you untangle what you're actually feeling, instead of telling you what to do.
Some people come once to get it off their chest. Others come back to the same listener every week while things settle.
Listeners
I spent years working in HR before I realised I was spending more time helping colleagues through hard moments than anything else. That pivot changed everything. I don't believe in quick fixes or silver linings. I believe in sitting with what's actually there — as long as it takes. I'm best with people who are willing to be a little honest with themselves, even when it's uncomfortable.
Speaks English & Hindi
I've been doing this for three years now, mostly with people in their late 20s and 30s — the age where everything feels simultaneously too fast and not fast enough. Relationships, work, the question of what you're actually building. I'm warm but I don't sugarcoat. I think the best thing I can do is help you hear yourself more clearly.
Speaks English & Malayalam
Yes. There's no deadline, and the length of the relationship doesn't decide how long it takes. If it's still heavy, that says something about what it meant — not that something's wrong with you.
No. They won't make that call for you. They'll help you hear yourself clearly enough to make it.
Still counts. Old heartbreak has a way of showing up in new relationships, and plenty of people come to talk about something that ended long ago.
No. Our listeners are trained peers, not therapists or psychiatrists — they don't diagnose or treat anything. If what you're carrying needs clinical care, a good listener will tell you so honestly.
We are not a substitute for psychiatric or psychological treatment. If you're in crisis, contact iCall (9152987821) or AASRA.
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